Want + Love + Ethically Value = Core Self and Mental Health

Direction

Intentions

100% of your Choices

The Truth Formula :

Want/Love/Value (Does it Feel RIGHT?) + Emotions (Does it Feel GOOD?) + Is your Behavior CHANGED? = NAME… NOW… Use words to describe the Situation (good or bad)

Logical Proof Test

Person A

“I will always lie to you.”

“I will not harm you.”

“I love you.”

“I always think about your feelings first.”

What can you deduce about this person? Compare Person A to Person B.

Person B always lies, and will not tell you that they lie.

“I will not harm you.”

“I love you.”

“I always think about your feelings first.”

If people lie about lying, how can you determine who to trust?

Watch their behavior.

 

Their words are a METRIC with which to measure their BEHAVIOR AGAINST.

Where people go wrong :

• They put 100% faith and trust into WORDS ONLY
• They DO NOT prioritize how the person makes them FEEL
• They NEVER account for ANYONE’S behavior
• They give certain people (ESPECIALLY Family, Friends, and Partners) a “Free Pass”
• HOLD EVERYONE Accountable for their BEHAVIORS to their WORDS

Behavior always speaks louder than words.

“Words are 100% always to be trusted”

The Common-Perspective Practice “The Order of Operations”

Stranger says “I’m your friend”

Stranger is deemed “Friend”

Stranger-Friend now receives FULL TRUST AND FREE PASS

Stranger-Friend becomes Lover/Partner

Stranger-Friend turns out to be Narcissist

You say “I never saw it coming.” or “He was so horrible to me and I loved/trusted him”

Did you properly EVALUATE their Self-Deemed “Friend” and “Take them at their word” or did you PROPERLY ASSESS THEM FIRST?

You say. “Oh! I took them at their word.”

“You reep what you sow.”

“I can never trust anyone.”

OR… You can PROPERLY ASSESS people.

… and this is how.

 

“NEVER TAKE ANYONE AT THEIR WORD”

Use the “Truth” Formula.

Want/Love/Value (Does it Feel RIGHT?) + Emotions (Does it Feel GOOD?) + Is your Behavior CHANGED? = NAME… NOW… Use words to describe the Situation (good or bad)

When you heal, you are in one of a few situations:

• You have ended a relationship and its just you. (BEST place to be when you start to heal). Your healing is all about you.
• You have just ended a relationship, you are already looking for another partner. Distracted from healing. Your actual focus is on partnering up. NOT on healing. It’s like you’re trying to set sail with a broken ship. And you think, “I’ll repair the ship at sea instead of putting in a dry dock.”
• You are in the middle of a CURRENT relationship and you are trying to FIX your current situation. But you have NO IDEA what your situation REALLY is. You need to diagnose and fix the ship while you are in the middle of the sea.

If you can do it, if you can afford it, move out. Separate yourself. If you need to, make the rule “Stay celibate.”

The goal is to SEVER the Emotional Prosthetic.

Go through “Rebuilding The Self” 100% ALONE. You are on WALKABOUT. YOU are living to gain PROOF OF CONCEPT that YOU can SAVE YOURSELF.

“You don’t know what you are capable of while you are using another human being as a life preserver. Love so much that you never want to use your loved ones as life preservers.”

Healing With A Partner.

A Test of the Self to endure trial by fire alone to gain proof of concept.

Pilgrim’s Progress

100% ALL mental problems ARE Self Problems.

THIS IS where Clarity comes from and how to get it.

The Types of People Today

• Eggshell Walkers
• Susceptible and Unaccountable People who fail to get their ass back to Lock Down so they can BECOME Objective.
• Susceptible and Unaccountable People who fail to get their ass back to Lock Down so they can BECOME Objective WHO LASH OUT at EVERYONE. They expect EVERYONE to walk on eggshells for them.
• In summary, we live in a world where people scream “WHY AREN’T YOU WALKING ON EGGSHELLS FOR ME!? YOU SHOULD BE WALKING ON EGGSHELLS FOR ME!”
• And then there is Anna. The “I am not an Eggshell Walker. And I AM Accountable AND I hold everyone to the same standard that I hold MYSELF to.”

 

The moment YOU BECOME ACCOUNTABLE, You no longer have to walk on eggshells for other people. You rise above that.

No. YOU need to get your ASS back to lock down AND LEARN how to be Objective.”

“We live in a world where we all tip-toe around those who are unaccountable instead of holding those people accountable, which is enabling their unaccountability and making them more unaccountable. THIS is what is wrong with the world today.”